In an Op-Ed for Time, Amber Rose poured out her
heart like never seen before. She wrote on having
to endure the judgement of others and constantly
explaining herself. She revealed she has gotten
over caring what people think and has chosen
instead to just be herself. She wrote the piece a
day after her tweet fight with Kanye. Read
below...
"Ever since high school, I’ve been called a
slut. All the boys were attracted to me—
that wasn’t my fault! Then, when I started
getting famous, the shaming got even
worse.
All these messed up stories came out about me,
and I was like, “That’s not true! I’m not that kind
of girl!” But even things I had done—things a man
would never be judged for—got me lots of hate.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a
divorce, I’d go out for a date at a restaurant like
any normal single human and people would say,
“Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants
with guys.” Then they would see my ex-husband
with a bunch of women. They would say, “He’s
the man! That’s so cool.” So when I went on a
date, I’m a whore, and when he’s piling girls in a
car, he’s the man? There’s something wrong
here.
It wasn’t just men saying these types of things.
There were a lot of women saying hateful things
to me. I was getting torn down constantly. But in
the past year, I’ve just started not caring.
People would actually say things like, “Who would
ever love you? You were a stripper.
Why are you
in relationships?” And I used to feel like I had to
explain that maybe it was because I’m a good
person.
But I realized that I can’t make everyone believe.
And I can’t talk to everyone and tell them who I
really am. They’re still going to have their own
opinions. If you know me, you love me. If you
don’t know me, you might love me, but you might
not—and that’s cool. And you know what? Now I
sleep like a baby at night.
It wasn’t even that hard to stop caring what
other people thought. I wasn’t married, and I
didn’t have a boyfriend so I didn’t have to care
about anyone else’s feelings or protect anyone’s
heart. I thought, “This is my life. This is about
me. If you don’t like it, I don’t care. I’m going to
do anything and everything I want with my own
life.”
What I’ve realized is that, when you care too
much, you’re not living at your full potential.
When you really stop caring about what people
say, that’s when you really start living. It’s such
an amazing feeling. It’s about loving who you are,
owning who you are and knowing that it’s O.K. to
live your life how you want to live it. We’re all
human, which means we’re not all perfect. It’s so
cool to think that I might help women think about
who they want to be and then encourage them to
be that person with no remorse. I want to help
women just be happy in their own skin.
So please: Before you judge someone—especially
another woman—put yourself in her shoes and
also look at your past. That’s what a lot of
women fail to do. They’re so quick to call another
girl names, but it’s like: You know what? There
may have been a time where you looked back and
said, “I probably shouldn’t have done that.” Does
that make you a ho? No, it makes you a human."
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